How attraction works

The initial stage of falling for someone activates your stress response, increasing your levels of adrenaline. This hormone makes your heart beat so fast and makes you sweat a lot when you’re in love.

Also, researchers have found out that people who are in love have a high level of dopamine in their brains which gives them an intense rush of pleasure. They say that it has similar effects on the brain as taking in cocaine.

And at last serotonin, which explains why you always remember your lover when you are in love.

Next stage in love: Attachment

Oxytocin is a hormone that strengthens the bond between the couple. This hormone is also released during childbirth and it also cements the bond between the mother and her child. Moreover, this hormone explains why the mother automatically releases milk at the sight or sound of her newborn child.

Vasopressin, also known as anti-diuretic hormone, not only helps control the body’s release of fluids, but also helps the couple have a stronger and more intimate relationship. An experiment on prairie voles proved this to be correct.

How to Fall in Love

Professor Arthur Arun, a York psychologist has been studying how and why people ‘fall’ in love, and he found out these three basic steps:

> Find a complete stranger

> Reveal to each other intimate details for 30 minutes

> Then stare at each other’s eyes without talking for 4 minutes

Arun tested this on his subjects and found out that many of them felt deeply attracted to each other.

Now you know basically how love works.



One of my friends has limerence (feeling of being in love), and it’s really killing him. Yun lang. He’s crazy for someone (I won’t tell you her name), and…. I don’t know what else to say… Just that…. (Actually, I find it interesting to talk with someone who is definitely MADLY attracted to someone.) Pero, limerence is not a joke. It’s really annoying once you get it. So be careful about your feelings.

Do you want to know more about Limerence?

Then go to My friend’s blog about limerence and his personal experiences concerning limerence.